‘Mujhse Shaadi Karogi’

I went to see a Hindi movie after absolutely ages. It was called ‘Mujhse Shaadi Karogi’ (no.... I don't have a clue what it means). The actors and actresses were all good looking, wearing lovely outfits, there was romance, lots of laughter, a hint of sadness, and a tinge of ‘how dare he, the scoundrel’ kind of feeling. I guess it was the usual kind the eternal triangle story. One girl with two guys vying for her favour, one always and I mean ALWAYS doing the wrong thing - generally hurting his future father-in-law pretty seriously (yes physically….. accidentally…) and the other the smooth, suave kind of guy… who turns out to be quite a surprise in the end.

My friend Sushilla and I had a marvelous time. We first met up for lunch at the Deli with loads of girl-talk and then took off to see the movie. Great company, good food and a good movie……. made up to a very good day indeed!

Words

Words……… it keeps striking me over and over again how important words are. I’m one of those people who reacts fast without much thought to what I say, and I ALWAYS manage to say the wrong thing! Trust me… I always do …. I’ve hurt many of my friends (who thank goodness have remained friends with me) by saying the first thing that popped into my head. The worst thing being that sometimes, I don’t even mean the things I say. (I know … I know… why say it then!)

I’ve read the famous email going around about the little boy who hammered nails into a fence for all the mean things he said, and took them out when he said he was sorry but found that the wounds remained. That’s true.. (the part where the wounds remain I mean)..if only I can remember that when I have to!!!!

Today I was at the receiving end of something like that. I know there was no conscious thought to hurt, but hurt it did. I happened to ask my boss whether I could take the laptop home, he said I could……… but to check with the others first giving me the (accurate?? acute??? cute??) impression that I could have it only if no one else in office wanted it first. What do you think that made me feel like? Significantly insignificant… that’s what!

So here’s a little note to myself…. think (at least try to) before you speak. You could be hurting someone needlessly.